For analysts: Please post the 'three most frequently asked questions' about sex or dreams you’ve been asked to answer over the years:
From Shira Saville
1. Am I supposed to love someone in order to have sex with them? Is it better or safer if you love them?
2. Is it normal to have sexual feelings for people of both genders? Does that mean I am Gay or Bi? Do I have to classify?
3. Why are boys considered "cool" if they have had multiple sex partners when girls with multiple partners are considered "sluts"?
From Steve Sonnenberg
Please remember that my practice is with adults, so the questions I'm asked reflect their efforts to understand how to use their dreams in analysis and analytic therapy.
1. Can my dreams help me understand what's not conscious in my mind?
2. Can my dreams represent efforts to solve or think about current life problems?
3. What does it mean that I've had a certain dream many times over many years?
From Jim Hansell:
1. How do you know which interpretation of a dream is right?
2. Does everybody dream?
3. Can people learn to control their dreams?
From Cynthia Carlson:
1-What does it mean that I don't remember my dreams?
2-What does it mean the I have had this one dream off and on since I was little?
3-What does it mean that I am able to fly in my dreams?
From Evelina Pereira-Webber:
I thought more in terms of a conflict than a question.
A 17 year old adolescent girl is in charge of the Home Coming Dance at her school. During the dance, she finds out from friends that her former boy friend and best friend were "hooking up" on the dance floor. (hugging, kissing and looking physically close and too comfortable with each other). She felt glad that she actually didn't see them together, but devastated by the different possibilities of the meaning of this interaction for her.
Here are some of the dilemmas she was struggling with, which more than sexual, were ethical and moral for her.
- According to her: She couldn't imagine herself "hooking up" with her best friend's boy friend. It's a territory you don't cross. The friend looked for her to explain and she responded that it was beyond explanation. "You just don't do it."
- How her former boy friend, knowing that she still had feelings for him and had also "hooked up" with her a few times after the break up a year ago, could choose to be involved with her best friend?!
- Were her best friend and her former boy friend worth her respect and great consideration? Were they concerned about her feelings and public humiliation? How would she view and deal with them after this experience?
From Colin Pereira-Webber:
1.) How come I keep forgetting my dreams even though they are so vivid when I am having them?
2.) Does everything in my dream really mean something or is it just nonsense?
3. Can I think something hard enough the night before so I dream about it that night?
From Robert Galatzer-Levy:
1) What is "normal" sexual interest-behavior for a boy-girl ages (insert age)
2) Is my penis too (small, large, misshapen etc.) to appeal to a partner
3) Why can't I stop watching porn that I find disgusting?
Please post the 'three most frequently asked questions' about sex or dreams you’ve been asked to answer over the years:
From Shira Saville
1. Am I supposed to love someone in order to have sex with them? Is it better or safer if you love them?
2. Is it normal to have sexual feelings for people of both genders? Does that mean I am Gay or Bi? Do I have to classify?
3. Why are boys considered "cool" if they have had multiple sex partners when girls with multiple partners are considered "sluts"?
From Steve Sonnenberg
Please remember that my practice is with adults, so the questions I'm asked reflect their efforts to understand how to use their dreams in analysis and analytic therapy.
1. Can my dreams help me understand what's not conscious in my mind?
2. Can my dreams represent efforts to solve or think about current life problems?
3. What does it mean that I've had a certain dream many times over many years?
From Jim Hansell:
1. How do you know which interpretation of a dream is right?
2. Does everybody dream?
3. Can people learn to control their dreams?
From Cynthia Carlson:
1-What does it mean that I don't remember my dreams?
2-What does it mean the I have had this one dream off and on since I was little?
3-What does it mean that I am able to fly in my dreams?
From Evelina Pereira-Webber:
I thought more in terms of a conflict than a question.
A 17 year old adolescent girl is in charge of the Home Coming Dance at her school. During the dance, she finds out from friends that her former boy friend and best friend were "hooking up" on the dance floor. (hugging, kissing and looking physically close and too comfortable with each other). She felt glad that she actually didn't see them together, but devastated by the different possibilities of the meaning of this interaction for her.
Here are some of the dilemmas she was struggling with, which more than sexual, were ethical and moral for her.
- According to her: She couldn't imagine herself "hooking up" with her best friend's boy friend. It's a territory you don't cross. The friend looked for her to explain and she responded that it was beyond explanation. "You just don't do it."
- How her former boy friend, knowing that she still had feelings for him and had also "hooked up" with her a few times after the break up a year ago, could choose to be involved with her best friend?!
- Were her best friend and her former boy friend worth her respect and great consideration? Were they concerned about her feelings and public humiliation? How would she view and deal with them after this experience?
From Colin Pereira-Webber:
1.) How come I keep forgetting my dreams even though they are so vivid when I am having them?
2.) Does everything in my dream really mean something or is it just nonsense?
3. Can I think something hard enough the night before so I dream about it that night?
From Robert Galatzer-Levy:
1) What is "normal" sexual interest-behavior for a boy-girl ages (insert age)
2) Is my penis too (small, large, misshapen etc.) to appeal to a partner
3) Why can't I stop watching porn that I find disgusting?